How to maintain - Relation / Friendship - PROBLEM ?/

sir,
this is jayasree completed my btech first year,
i think i cant maintain good relations with friends and relatives.
how to make friends and maintain good relation ..
JAYASREE


Dear Jayasree:
Hope you have the reference from one of my classes at VIHE/mat at hyderabad?

U guess, u have problem, then u have.
First remove that feeling.
U r a good girl, good frined, good relative.
As human being, we are social and human by nature.
That is why this feeling and question too..
U want to be social and human.
U can. When u make others happy, alll around u must feel happy in
being with you.
accept people as they are.
no comments and complaints.
accept them and keep them at the place they deserve to be.
too much close can end up in bad relations later.
be with them when they need you, with out hurting you..
u can.
this question is the start for the change.
i am glad and happy to see these questions.
Many do have these problems, but they dont come out.
I am sure this email will make a change in you think different.

You need to find common interest and people of similar frequencey to
maintain relation.
It all depends on your interest too..
u first must enjoy yourself and be happy inside to serve happiness.


you can be active and part of the activity
SIKSHA
http://drtps-shiksha.blogspot.com/
see my other blogs too ffrom the link below.

Best wishes and paryers.
Sasneham
drTPS

BACK - GROUND and SERVE the NATIOn ?!!

Hello Sir,

First of all let me pray God to give u long life and strength to continue your indispensable contribution to our motherland.
Your way of enlightening the youth and ideas towards spiritual thoughts is exceptional.

I came to know about you through orkut and just admired your career path that is achieved in young age.

I am Baskar from Tamil Nadu. I needed some peculiar career oriented advice. I hope you could mentor me well and guide through.
I have completed my mechanical engineering and now working for an American MNC in India.
Although i have scored good marks in 10th and 12th, my under graduation went in the other way. I lost interest when i joined college in studies for no reason, although its a good engg college.
I had arrears in first year, and the second year was even worse. I was detained due to lack of attendance and has to take a one year break.
All this happened before i could realize that i m moving in wrong path. But when i joined again after one year the scenario was different. I acquired interest in subjects and started to learn new things.
Not only i passed my arrears, also scored good marks. During my final year i was without arrears and acquired good knowledge in subject. My performance was high that i could almost topped the class
in some subjects. I also got good exposure to practical knowledge as my final year project was awarded one of the best project.
And when i was in end of my college i could stay on top with other class mates. I was also placed in good company.

Now my question is how will the people see that one year break? Is it a black mark? I am planning to give ISRO, DRDO and other competitive exams now, as i love working for India.
Will that backlog affect my carrier? How to get rid of it? A mistake is a mistake but how to turn it in a positive way? How should i explain that to the interview person?

Can i do a PG in engg and will that backlog fade away after my PG degree.? How do u approach my case if u r a recruiter.?

I would be really grateful if u could clarify my doubts and give some advice.
Please consider this as my personal mail.

Thanks,
Baskar.

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Dear Bhaskar:
Glad and nice to see your email and comments.

I guess u r in chennai?

back-ground performance do matter.
But the isro/drdo screening is generally based on the final marks.
It all depends on the selection committee at the time of interview.
Your performance can compensate all that.
Best wishes.

You can may be serve the nation better, being out.
I am glad to see the project / and the continyued interest you have.

I have some activity in plan for the engineering college students.
Just in plan / start stage.
And do god get me good contacts at right time.
I guess, u r one who has been posted by such activity of unknown to me.

Please see the SHIKSHA at
http://drtps-shiksha.blogspot.com/


We could plan such activity and make a reserch centre and self-help
groups with large projects for the nation.

I am sure with people like you, it can be a great success.

You will see many from Kurukshethra to kerala active and having lot of
ideas, playing role in this.

see the blog, comment, guide, be part of this move,
tamil nadu have great scope..
and i wish to be more active in south.

With prayers
Sasneham
drTPS

DESIRE --> MUKTHI

STUDENT:

Sathsangathwey nissangathwam......... Nissangathwe nirmohathwam..............Nirmohathwe nischalathathwam...............Nischalathathwe Jeevan mukthi"....................................

DRTPS:

IF SUCH IS THE CASE,
MANY WILL PREFER NOT TO HAVE MUKTHI.
LIFE CANT HAVE NISSANGATHWAM, NIRMOHATHWAM..
DEVELOPMENT / PROGRESS ITSELF IS WITH DESIRE.
DESIRE TO LEARN, EARN AND FAME.

NO DESIRE, NO ENJOYMENT.
I AM ENJOY...
PRAYERS FOR YOU TO BE IN BLISS.

DESIRE FOR MUKTHI
ITSELF IS A DESIRE..
THUS U COULD SEE THE
SLOKA IS CONNECTING PURUSHARTHAS
AS THE DESIRELESS IS NOT WHAT IS ESSENTAIL.
BUT TO HAVE DHARMA IN LIFE.
AND MUKTHI IS BLISS / CONTINUED HAPPINESS.

SANATHANA DHARMA IS OUR (BHARATHEEYA) LIFE PATTERN.

cast ?

cast - important ?
praneetha:
hi sir .....how r u ...i just want to ask about cast feelings.....are they right .do every one need to stick to their castes.....why is this differentiation though all say they preach same ...



dear
They preach same,
the ways are different in terms of the rituals.

more than cast, it is the cultural feeling one should have.
the way of life is the culture.
earlier cast used to be the definition for the culture.
i guess, these dasy it is not, and
hence, one need not worry on the cast.
some of the social / cultural / ritual still are based on the cast.
at times the sast do matter in case of the social gettogether, mostly at thwe time of marriage, death etc.
the answer to your question is yes and no.
i could light examples of these many
what had created issues later in life
many they are smooth.
it all depends on the mind (manas) to accomodate eachother.
all rituals / festive / are for togetherness.

charactor...behaviour

STUDENT : i have a doubt and i need an answer for it..please so anwser to this.. "how to create a good character? how to have a good personality? how do we know the character we have got is a good one? or how do we know we have a good personality?? suppose we think we have a good character..but sometime we feel we dont have...i mean a type of confusion........actually how do we recognize?????


DrTPS: nothing like the fixed good charactor.
all charactor are circumstances ased varying.
so nothing is good and bad.
it all depends on the behaviour.
good behaviour happens with good people.
same person could behave different / bad to some one else / in a dfferent situation..
so dont worry..
change the relation / place / instance /
all are time / space varient.
so dynamic.

YES, WHEN ONE GETS INTO LIFE AND GET MANY EXPERIENCES..
MAY REFINE THE BEHAVIOUR..
THEN, A SYAGE WILL COME TO ANYONE, ANYTIME, ANY SITUATION
HE WILL NOT BE BAD
THUS THAT STAGE CAN BE CALLED GOOD CHARACTOR STAGE

still how is it tested.?
another instance, another situation, !!
the behaviour can be bad?
yes, possile..

WHAT IS BAD AND GOO?
this tooo need to be understood..
what is accpetable to me is god to me.
so it is relative..

CONCENTRATION PROBLEM

Friend : I have 0 concentration
and my mind is wavering wandeing

DrTPS: this is natural and common to all the people of high creativity and who takes up lot of parallel activity and they are not of keen interest but does this for some basic/periferal requirements ...
u need to search and find that is realy interesting you and do it for some time in a day, and be happy in doing the rest of activity with that energy.


Friend : for 7.8 years???

DrTPS: yes..
be throughout life, this could be the case..
for some people.


Friend : can you reverse it for me, some technique
DrTPS: dear..
find that u realy love..
love to do.
be with some one u realy love ..


Friend : writinh
what else
DrTPS: when u dont get happiness in work, family, people around..
this is what happens..
u must learn to live in happiness.
enjoy the company of people around u, as now u have no
escape.
identify the job that gives u enjoyment.
never try to find the negatives / not possible / bad part of the activity / life around/
try to see the best part of all that is around u.
the work
the people
he nature
relations.
when ur thoughts are negative, u get frustrated..
it is not that things are bad around, they are unacceptable to you..
thus u become unfit.
things will still move..
see what u can do.
tead of saying what others shouldnt have done / doing.
need a different perspective in
life.
u can
in a few days.
.
change.